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August 16th, 2008 at 3:22 PM

So I'm stumped again and would love some input, I just wanna see what others would do more so than beg for you to give me the perfect solution. So generally I'm quite a chilled out, level headed person. I try to keep away from girls because they cause me a lot of confusion and I've got others things that I need to focus on first like earning money and getting educated.

But... Recently I seem to have come on heat or something, I mean literally girls are throwing themselves at me. This is the precise reason I avoid them because choice really messes me about. Anyways, in one hand I have a really sweet girl, she's attractive and I get on well with her... But she lives further away, it's about 40 minutes, which doesn't sound a lot to Americans, however, in England we don't travel anywhere near as much so that's a slight issue. She works full time and with that travel I'm not sure how often we'd see each other.
Case #2 is another great girl, she's more fun loving and confidant. And she just has that wicked dark kinda look, that completely drives me nuts. But her sister had a massive crush on me and I told her straight up it wasn't gonna happen so it's left the whole thing on a bit of uneasy ground. I have to be careful not to hurt her sister because I'm actually not a complete asshole. Now she lives literally 2 minutes away, but has a really busy social life so it's hard to fit me into it.

Okay now just to really fuck it up, I'm going back to college. It's a great opportunity to meet new friends but means I'm gonna be slightly strapped for cash from now on. This could possibly lead to me having to get rid of my car and I definitely won't be able to afford buses/train fares.

All in all, my life is on the right tracks for once, but my love life is as complex as my life usually is. I wasn't sure where to put it but it seemed more like a rant than anything else.

August 16th, 2008 at 3:29 PM

The girls throwing themselves at you part...


we're all in heat.

<3.

August 16th, 2008 at 3:33 PM

Honestly, don't get into a relationship right now if you're heading back to school. Last thing you want is a boat load of stress on your relationship, e.g. cheated on, break up, etc. all during finals or something. Just wait it out and finish up your school for now I'd say.

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August 16th, 2008 at 3:50 PM

Not sure which aspect you question- those girls or any girls at all right now? I've been actively dodging relationships for a long time. One of my best ways of not attracting people is avoiding places where people get in heat. Such as bars or night clubs or other social events where people go looking to score. That's pretty much a guarantee right there to get hit on. That's what half the flipping people are there for you know? Also avoid parties where there are a lot of people I don't know, you invariably get hit on there as well.

Another thing I do is grow out the scruffies in terms of beard which the majority of women hate, and dress sloppily. That can help a lot.

August 16th, 2008 at 4:00 PM

I love facial hair and the hobo look.

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August 16th, 2008 at 4:01 PM

Yeah but I have a lot of personal pride and I couldn't allow myself to dress what I'd deem as sloppy. It's not so much the attention as the confusion and I'm pretty certain that 90% of it is self induced in my head. I mean I love attention, just never been a big fan of relationships, far too constraining and likely to end in aggro.

August 16th, 2008 at 4:13 PM

Yeah, figuring out what it is you want I couldn't be of much help with. I dodge women because I don't trust them. Well, not women specifically. Humans in general. Guys just can't get in a position to harm me internally so I regard them as safe.

You're not really ready for a real relationship now. Nothing wrong with that. Have some flings if you just want the attention, just don't let people get too caught up in you... make sure they know you aren't serious and back out if it feels like they might be getting attached. You really don't want to hurt anybody. If you have any soul it comes back to haunt you.

August 16th, 2008 at 4:15 PM

Originally posted by snot

I love facial hair and the hobo look.

August 16th, 2008 at 4:18 PM

Hahaa...well I think Pauly Shore is sexy. You could say I'm somewhat out of the norm.

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August 16th, 2008 at 4:20 PM

Dude, you're still young...just thing of number one and do what you think is best. With patience and all I guess it could work once you finish college? It'll blow over, but situations like that are a bit messy...

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August 16th, 2008 at 4:26 PM

Originally posted by snot

Hahaa...well I think Pauly Shore is sexy. You could say I'm somewhat out of the norm.

August 16th, 2008 at 4:29 PM

Oh my god yes.. Especially when he wears spandex. lol. And yes...I pride myself on being different.

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August 16th, 2008 at 4:30 PM

You don't need a girl.
Play the field.
Have some fun.
If #2 won't make room for you, don't sweat it.

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August 16th, 2008 at 4:34 PM

Originally posted by mrgn

You don't need a girl.
Play the field.
Have some fun.
If #2 won't make room for you, don't sweat it.

August 16th, 2008 at 4:35 PM

I'll sign on for you.

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August 16th, 2008 at 5:42 PM

Oh for him eh! Thats why you said brb as soon as I messaged you!
/SAD!

August 16th, 2008 at 6:14 PM

Since you don't want a relationship, just figure out which one would be the better booty call.

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August 16th, 2008 at 7:56 PM

Simply, don't worry about relationships.
You have other things to do and the chick choices don't seem worth it to waste time.

Don't make things complex
I vote botty call, yes.